Saturday, 10 January 2009

The Importance of Self-Belief

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi
In issue 7 of Heroes Magazine, which is based on the TV series, Heroes, there's an interview with the actor, Sendhil Ramamurthy who plays the Anglo Indian scientist, Mohinder Suresh.

Sendhil said when his manager told him about the role, he was in London at the time in another play. He had to fly to America to audition for the part. When he walked into the audition he noticed all the other actors were in their fifties. Apparently, the role was for a man in his fifties; Sendhil was in his early thirties. Sendhil walked out of the audition and called his manager and told him he was too young. His manager told him the producers were already aware of his age. They wanted the character to be Indian but educated in Britain, which gives him an Anglo-Indian accent, a tall order as Sendhil has an American accent. Anyway, he managed to impress the producers so much that they re-wrote the part and made the character younger, which fitted in nicely with the other young characters that had already been cast.

I believe all experiences - "good" or "bad"- are reflections of how we feel about ourselves. If you want things to change, you have to change. It was Sendhil strong self-belief in himself as an actor that attracted the kind of manager who would help get him the roles of his dreams. Sendhil's manager believed so much in his client that he managed to convince the producers of "Heroes" to audition his client for the part even though Sendhil was a lot younger than the character they had in mind. That self-belief convinced the producers to re-write the character to fit in with Sendhil's age. That's the power of self-belief.

One of my favourite comedies is Sex and the City, which is about the loves and relationships of four girlfriends living in Manhattan. After Charlotte has been married, she decides to give up her job so she can focus on redecorating their apartment and having kids. When she announces her decision to her friends, she feels Miranda is not very supportive of her idea. The next day, Charlotte phones Miranda and tells her she needs her to get behind her decision. Miranda tells her: "You get behind your decision!" Charlotte sticks to her guns and quits her job and things do work out. In other words, when you back yourself up, the world stands with you in your decision.

Years ago after I had studied all these teachings about how we all have infinite power within ourselves to create whatever lives we choose, I felt a calling to test out these ideas in my own life experiences and document my experiences. Although I was inspired, a part of me thought it was total madness trusting in the Power to meet my supply, which was reflected back at me as lots of resistance. As I started believing in myself more, things started to change. I found my mother who had been opposed to the idea started to support me. It hasn't been easy, however. There have been many times when I've felt like I've been walking on a lonely road and have even questioned my sanity, but I've continued to believe in myself. When I've come across an "obstacle" or some resistance, I've seen it as a reminder to dig deep and get behind my decision. Now I say to myself every day: "I love you. I believe in you."

When I believe in myself, the world believes in me.


Related articles: Conviction - Revisited; Will Power; Hive Mind; Determination; The Power of Being True to MySelf; Trusting in my Path; Taking the Dog for a Walk; Being the Change I Want to See; Living Under Grace - Revisited; The Loves of My Life; Why I Believe in Belief; Why the Inner Critic is Now My Greatest Ally; Self-Respect; My Choir of Angels - Part 2; Going the Whole Hog; Life as I Know It; In-Dependence; What is Wealth?; Follow Me